Beware of the Narcissist manipulators

Today I want to talk about one rare topic, effect of narcissism which we all experience at one point of time without realizing their toxic presence in our lives. The story begins with getting into a complete faith and trust in a particular person or by expressing your vulnerable self to a manipulator. Only to realize later the emotional exhaustion that happens resulting in anger, frustration, depression, career eviction etc. 

Narcissists are the people who knows exactly how to win over your emotions, extract the sympathy out of you only to manipulate you further into their benefit; totally misusing the concept of relationship as they lack a sense of empathy or an ability to understand other people's emotions. The reasons behind it remain undiscovered.  But they are quite clever in destroying the self confidence of the victim, make them redundant and are able to suck out the positivity. You might find them in your personal relationships as a family member or at work. While the situation might look different for other people and the people might misjudge the you by looking at the emotional turmoil you are passing through.

My advise to you  is nobody in this world is actually bothered about your pain, so step up yourself and push away the pressure and pain you are suffering from this narcissist person and begin your own journey. A person doesn't need to be in your life if he doesn't respect your needs, growth and personal space.  You don't have to become the person the narcissist wants you to be; you have your own life, choices and you

lead them independently. Don't deny yourself of the happiness that you deserve and wipe away the hatred virus out of your heart...it might kill you !

Tip of the day: Be in complete harmony with your soul !!

Love you All....Amrit. 

Beauty Pageants : A platform for confidence ?

I have always been fascinated by the winning crown since my childhood and I felt it belonged to "The most beautiful woman on earth who have won over all her struggles; pushed away all the negativity around her and has ultimately won over her confidence and self faith". This has been my version of winning the crown and the title. And it almost went in similar fashion for me with few up and downs...Lol. 

But the significance attached is different to different people. Some people take it as an ego after they have ignored for years by their family members, some people who have extra money to throw away somewhere and some who feel pageants are gateway to stardom and movies. 

When I visited my International Pageant, I learned pageants are a mean to earn scholarships for higher education; as a mean for self grooming and even a way to attain confidence in terms of  stage fear etc. Even some actually use the platform to do some significant social work. 

The public view and the organizers play an important role in shaping the future of the beauty pageants. We don't have to slut shame or even objectify them by the size and weight. What is more important: the person's  character (Inner beauty) or the person outer beauty ?  I have seen many women broken, cheated and depressed  after loosing in the competition. 

My question to you is "Are beauty Pageants so bad" ? NOPE.  Participating in a beauty pageant is  a talent; like writing, designing, architecture, medicine...etc. Not everyone can do the catwalk or have the patience to stand on their stiletto for hours together; design their own style or attitude on stage or even face the media or public confidently. Its a journey not everyone has the capability to handle. Its time we redefine the stigma attached to it and achieve a better balance where we provide a platform for self confidence; and the significance is attached to healthy diet, etiquette, communication and public speaking. Lets provide a safe place for this talent growth. 

Tip of the day : Being a beauty Queen is a blessing !!

Congeniality Title: An Honour beyond recognition.

  

In beauty Pageants, congeniality is the most important title to be won as the vote are counted from the participants and the judges have the least power in deciding the winner. It is absolutely difficult to get a vote from your competitors. You cant make everyone happy !!

Today I wanted to share my story which made me win the congeniality title in an International Pageant. I will not be disclosing the identity of the person so as to not to hurt anybody's feelings. During days of competition, I found myself at the cross roads on the 3 rd day of the pageant, when a contestant suffered a sudden attack of status epileptics during the interview session. I couldn't help her with her medications so  I actually accompanied her to the local hospital, stayed with her even when all her friends had abandoned her. I waited for her to get stabilized and then barely managed as the last person for the pageant interview on my own !! 

Everything in beauty pageants is a competition, right from the simple queens dinner to photoshoots till the the final evening gown round. But still there are few things which can never be compared or copied and these are genuinity, humility and patience that remain untouched by any unscrupulous deception. 

I stood by her no matter what; as the humanity need to have an upper hand over the competition. 

Tip of the day: Human spirit is a moral responsibility !! 

Love you All...

Doctor turned model is not a crime..!!

Let me introduce myself, I am a Pathologist and an International Beauty Queen, an honor I m extremely proud of !! It is usually considered Doctors can never be fashion models and if they are; they can never be good doctors.

U know what, I proved them all wrong !! I finished my post graduation in Pathology, co-authored a book with 20 scientific papers. Then I couldn't contain my passion and I participated in Mrs India Beauty Queen 2015 and then subsequently won Mrs United Nation International 2016. And I knew nothing about fashion industry.

Fashion motivates me, styling gives me energy and the being on stage gives me power. Walking in stiletto to the walk I learnt, makes me feel sexy and in control. Representing my country at an International Platform is a dream come true for me.

I would like to leave a tip  : Dress up well everyday; it gives positivity and if anybody stops you...turn a deaf ear or tell them to shut Up !!

Love you All..